When you are allowing them back for another try, there is a fear that sets in. A fear of not knowing how it will go. Will things change? Will they be the same?
The truth is nothing will change.
I will just become more lenient and over look a lot. To be honest, in my experience with relationships I have learned one thing people don't change. My sister often tells me, that I have this knack for being with people I feel I can help or change their world for them.
Every guy I have been with has had family issues.
They have all been the black sheep of them family.
They have all been through a horrible past relationship.
I don't know what draws me to these people, but this is where I find myself.
I am a fixer, a make it all better type of person and I take this upon myself many times, feeling I need to make it better or I know how to fix this.
People don't change, I change.
If you are trying to fix a plumbing problem yourself and nothing you try is working, what's the next step?
Call a plumber? Right?
I mean I try to make things right and make things all better, but sometimes people can't be fixed, they just come as they are. This is either accepted or not.
Maybe, my problem is trying to fix someone, maybe my trying to fix someone needs to be fixed.
I should stop doing this, I should not want to fix anyone.
But when you see someone who is lost aren't you going to offer directions?
Do I help or just let it go?